Proverbs 21:19 (NIV)
That was it! I was done! Once again, even after repeated reminders, my husband had walked into the bathroom and dropped his socks b-e-s-i-d-e the clothes hamper.
Then I did what I believed all wives were required to do: I stored that incident in my mind along with all the other times that socks were dropped on the floor, anniversaries and birthdays were forgotten, the new toilet paper roll was replaced backward or, heaven forbid, an empty toilet paper roll was left in the bathroom and . . . you get the picture.
You probably know what came next, too. A little thing – my husband was 5 minutes late picking me up from work – and I hit him square in the heart with every single thing that I believed he had done wrong since the Garden of Eden. Unfortunately, what I just described didn’t happen just once in our marriage but that scene was repeated over and over with few minor changes.
Then one day, the Lord had had enough of my behavior, and He placed in my life an older Godly woman who shared her marriage with me. She talked about being a newlywed and her determination to change her husband into her idea of perfection. That continued for years until the day she received an unexpected life-changing gift from her son.
He walked into the kitchen and said, “Mom, I’ve been teaching myself how to use my tape recorder, so I taped you and dad talking yesterday. Do you want to hear it?” She smiled as he hit “play,” but in an instant the tears flowed as she listened to the conversation with her husband and the tone of her voice.
She said that not only was her voice negative and her words accusing and absolutely horrible but she could not escape the hurt in her husband’s voice as he barely answered “yes” or “no” to her questions.
I have to tell you that I was completely convicted that day of my attitude of arguing and complaining toward my husband and our marriage and called him at work to ask his forgiveness. And I would love to tell you that the toilet paper roll was always full after that, and anniversaries were never forgotten again. Not true.
But somehow, socks next to the hamper were no longer as important as my acceptance and love of my husband, God’s gift to me. May it be the same with each of you.
Father, I thank you for the gift of my husband. Help me to treat him with the love and respect that he deserves. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
R.A.P. it up . . .
Reflect
If someone were to tape record your conversations with your husband, would you be ashamed or embarrassed by what you say and how you say it?
Would the majority of your conversations be affirming and positive or demeaning and negative?
Apply
Praise God every day for your husband and all the unique, wonderful qualities he brings to your marriage.
Think of ways to praise and affirm your husband as an important part of your life, and then tell him.
Power
Proverbs 21:19 (NIV) “Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife.”
Proverbs 21:9 (NIV) “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.”
Proverbs 31:10 (NIV) “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.”
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Ah, yes, wives as slaves with no dignity, respect, or consideration. Thanks be to God for this lovely role. I cant imagine why women are refusing to enter in to such a lovely institution.
Keep being your husband's slave, the rest of us will do without.
I will say if there is any type of Abuse - Physically or Mentally in a Marriage then this is a viable reason for Divorcing the other person. Yet, people today through in the towel at the First Sign of a Problem and most need to take Marriage Counseling and Spiritual Counseling before ever getting Married.
Marriage takes 2-People to succeed. Yet - In heterosexual marriages, women initiate divorce about 69% of the time. This means that women are more likely to file for divorce than men. Men typically file for divorce around 29-30% of the time.
“Modern women have higher expectations for emotional and personal fulfillment in relationships, leading to a lower tolerance for unhealthy or imbalanced partnerships,” says Pharo. “Divorce isn’t as stigmatized as it once was. Women, especially those who are financially independent, feel more empowered to walk away from marriages that don’t serve their emotional wellbeing.”
The reason women don’t have what they want is because they believe that happiness, peace, and a sense of enough-ness can only come to them from another person.
They believe that in order for them to feel loved and worthy, they must be loved and proved worthy through the actions of other people.
And the worst part is that most women don’t know they are living under this belief, which is a lie.
If someone asked you right now if you depend on another person — or people — for your happiness, peace, or sense of enough-ness, you would probably say you don’t.
But your actions may tell another story.
Today Women are influenced by so much in the outside world they start to believe the Hype and Sabotage their Relationships and Marriages. They Allow their Friends that small corner in their Minds - "You Deserve Better", "The Grass is always Greener" - these types of Friends can Pit you against your Family or Marriage and Actually Damage your Relationships. These So-Called Friends usually Lack and are Generally less tuned into the Reality of Marriage - and just like all Opinions or Assumptions - Not based on proven reality of Helping Couples reach their Goals.
This is why - The Gender Wars Are Making American Men Look for Wives Overseas -
However, this trend of ‘strong, independent women who don’t need men’ is one of the causes why a lot of American men can’t find anyone to date and marry. American women’s high, unreasonable standards, general hate for men, and lack of traditional values are what’s driving men away from dating in the country.
We have men who want to date, to build a life with someone, and to start a family. But they can’t because their choices are little to none. It’s either the women don’t want to date them because they aren’t “good enough” or they don’t want to date local women because they’re “entitled, individualistic, hyper feminists, or not worth the hassle.” Again, I’m not saying all women in the U.S. are like this, but a decent number of them are, and it’s discouraging men from trying to date them.
You missed the point. It's about respecting your spouse. And, for the record, I believe her husband passed away.
OMG! PPPP, you've outdone yourself on this one, but I would expect an overzealous, over opinionated, uneducated response from you anyway. It appears you see women as weak, whimsical hucksters, following whatever direction their emotional wind is blowing. I would assume you're the recipient of many failed relationships by virtue of your telling us all how relationships work, (horrendously shortsighted) and your perception of women (discriminatly malignantly maligned). You'll need more than 10 paragraphs to redeem yourself on this one. Please stick to politics. Your lack of knowledge on this subject could harm someone.
4:35AM, Very Happily Married - Are you a Woke, DEI, CRT, or a Pronoun Shamer? Where are your FACTS, Not your overzealous, useless opinions? Did You Read the Article, CAN YOU READ or do you just make Ridiculous Comments?
THE ARTICLE CLEARLY SAID - "She said that not only was her voice negative and her words accusing and absolutely horrible, but she could not escape the hurt in her husband’s voice as he barely answered “yes” or “no” to her questions".
Of Course - Coming from an Uneducated or a Person with Little or Probably NO - Religious Beliefs - Is why you cannot Understand the Article or the Facts of Today's Modern Lifestyles - that pushes a Society - Where everyone and everything - is so Emotional Charged - and if they don't get their ways they Quit or Run Away - No Understanding of the Fundamentals on Marriage and Relationships - -
So Read the Article and Comment on the ARTICLE, If you Can - Because you definitely Do Not Understand - A Man and a Women's Relationship or Understand the Workings in a Good Relationship or the Foundation it Takes - Which I doubt you have ever had. Each Person in a Marriage has Roles that Help Make the Relationship Work - - and if you THINK those Roles - Make Women look WEAK - YOU TRULY DO NOT UNDERSTAND THOSE ROLES - Love, Honesty, Respect, Nurturing, and Obeying - Helping Each Other - -
People today are easily Influenced by the Outside World and Others - Who only want to Play Games - which it sounds like you are one of those. Always Giving Opinions - Never Listening, always making Excuses - Relationships are both Give and Take - You cannot just - TAKE AND TAKE AND TAKE - and Expect to Receive - but Today's Society and a Majority of Individuals - seems to just want to Take and Take - and Never Give.
Again, You will probably will never understand the Article - Because you Continually Lack - any type of Giving Attitude - You Could try Reading the Bible Verses in the Article - Do you need those Interrupted - Have You ever Studied or Read the Bible - - which may be the Reason - You have Issues understanding or commenting on the Articles - - - -
Power
Proverbs 21:19 (NIV) “Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife.”
Proverbs 21:9 (NIV) “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.”
Proverbs 31:10 (NIV) “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.”
4:35 AM, I have found that People who make comments or even look to religion or seem to only try and find God, is when they are in Trouble.
Every Convict seems to look to Find God.
When you, a family member, or friend is in trouble.
When you, a family member, or friend are in the Hospital.
When you, a family member, or friend is on their Death Bed.
When will People look to Religion and God through all areas of their life - good, bad, and ugly. They have no problem, following FB, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, and your misguided circle of friends, but Religion is thought as old-fashioned and too restrictive for today's society to follow!
People need to live their lives based on the commandments and scriptures and not just live for the day and feel that someday they will get around to it, before it is too late.
Each morning and each night, when arising and when going to bed, say three Hail Mary's prostrate on the ground, or at least kneeling, and to each Hail Mary add the short aspiration: 'By thy pure and Immaculate Conception, O Mary, make my body pure and my soul holy
458,301,804,746. It's obvious that your fragile ego can't handle any sort of criticism. I disagree with a good majority of your opinions as I see them as extraordinarily single minded and shortsighted. After nearly 26 paragraphs of you trying to explain yourself, you still miss the point. Please discontinue entering into topics that aren't in your repertoire of expertise. Again, someone could be harmed by your erroneous and impulsive accusations.
Proverbs 31:10
Lord am I thankful I have this type of wife.
She is irreplaceable, She is priceless, I don’t deserve her. God made her just for me.
Thank you, 349. Perfect! Where are you 458,301,804,746?
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