Thursday, July 13, 2017

Mother of driver in quadruple fatality accident: McKay was not impaired by anything but his phone

(This morning, Veronica Ainsworth-Harris, the mother of McKay Harris, one of the drivers in a July 4 quadruple fatality accident, left the following message on my public Facebook page, referring to the Turner Report's coverage of the accident. In that coverage, using the Highway Patrol's online reports, the posts offered the details of the accident and from the Patrol's arrests page, the information that Harris had been cited for driving while intoxicated and a number of other charges. I will  have a post later today explaining my coverage and coverage by other area media of this accident. I left that Mrs. Harris should have the opportunity to tell her story, unedited.)

This was my baby, McKay Harris was my son.

 Most of you didn't know him, and most of you including this Randy Turner person don't have ALL the facts. 

When this blog or post was posted, the crash was still under investigation and still is as far as I know. Print that in your story. And who do you people think you are wishing death upon anyone? Wait till your kid messes up!!! You people are what's wrong with humanity today not McKay. He was just a baby really, like all kids he had a lapse in judgment. 

As his mother I can PROMISE you, nothing you could ever say or wish on him could be as bad as what he would have felt himself about the consequences of his actions that night. 

Had he lived, he wouldn't have been able to live with himself. It would've been all I could do to keep him from killing himself, HAD he lived. 

Four people died that night on that road, McKay NEVER regained consciousness, never opened his eyes, nothing. He held my hand Wednesday for a minute, he was allowed back so I would know he was really already gone and that I had to let him go. 

My baby may have fucked up bad, real bad but he was not impaired by anything but his phone, and as bad as this has been, it was an accident in the truest meaning. 

The hate being published here and anywhere else is purposely put out there, with intentions of hurting others. That's evil and that should be punishable by death. 

So on behalf of my guilt stricken angel and his precious little sad soul, those of you spreading shit will rue the day!! Love always wins and there will be justice for those loved. And he is loved!

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34 comments:

Anonymous said...

I'm so very sorry for your loss and lift prayers for your family and the families of the others that passed away that night! Just a sad tragedy!

Anonymous said...

I hate Randy Turner's articles.


He published a false one about my kids. Then I confronted him, and he he cowarded like a bitch.

Anonymous said...

She really ought to get a lawyer and be mindful of admitting fault of her minor son in this incident. Those other families have opportunity to sue, and she now has these public statements that would be difficult to dismiss.

Otherwise, I understand the anger at people wishing her minor child to die. That said, when such things happen, it is common to acknowledge the history of the driver. I do not recall anyone being upset over RT recounting the criminal history of the pedo in Carthage or the man who knocked his girlfriend's teeth out right after release from jail for a previous assault on the woman. History matters. It offers us insight into future behaviors. In this case, the teen's history demonstrates that the mother, or whomever was responsible for the child (some have said he was in the care of grandparents or in foster care) should not have allowed him on the road. He was obviously incapable of handling the responsibility. It's understandable and forgivable that the teen fucks up a few times, but it is inexcusable that mistakes on the magnitude seen in his past should have been forgiven to the point of handing him keys and a passenger.

Grieve the loss of your son, but understand that you let him back on the road.

Anonymous said...

I, too am sorry for your loss. I know the mother is hurting and I feel for her... however, it still doesn't take away that the child was using the phone by her statement. This means that even though he was not drinking, or doing drugs when this happened, it was still an unavoidable "accident." I'm hoping this horrible tragedy serves as a reminder to other parents, to know where their children are at all times. Maybe they shouldn't be out late at night unattended if they are prone to not following all the laws.

My heart goes to this mother but my sympathies lie with the innocent family that is completely destroyed because her child was using a phone and was out super late at night. I'm praying for all of them.

Anonymous said...

To Anonymous 6:43, I have no doubt you hate Randy Turner's articles, but the rest of your comment is hard to believe. He didn't "coward like a bitch" when he has confronted some of the most powerful people in this area and I haven't known him to "coward like a bitch) at any point since I first came across his writing when he was at the Carthage Press. What would this story be that he backed down on? I am sure readers would love to know.

Jessica said...

I don't think this mom gives a shit about being sued right now. Her child is dead. I feel so sick for her and all the family members of the deceased.

I wonder how they were able to determine that he was using his phone during the wreck. Even if he was using his phone, how can they be sure that was what caused the wreck? I'm not challenging the accuracy of what McKay's mother is saying, I'm just curious how they are able to determine that. Weren't all the witnesses killed?

Anonymous said...

Randy Turner I think likes to print bad things about people. He has also printed things that wasn't all truth about my family. I am sorry you are going through the loss of your son, I can't imagine. God says to love all and not to judge. My advice would be to stay off of the social media so you don't have to read all the rude comments of people that don't know the story or your son. It will keep the bitterness away. I do feel for all the others that lost their loved ones as well. My God give you all peace and comfort.

Amber Bryant said...

As I have mixed emotions about this article I hate to say this but he is not the only one that I have ever seen crossed the center line in and Diamond Missouri on V Highway unfortunately he had to be the one that ended up hitting people and killing them but I've seen a lot of people do it and there's a lot of people that are guilty of it like I said I have mixed emotions about this article my heart goes out to the mom of this little boy and to the families of the people that he killed.

Anonymous said...

7:17

They can look at phone history, records, etc. Also, new technology like this:
http://www.npr.org/sections/alltechconsidered/2017/04/27/525729013/textalyzer-aims-to-curb-distracted-driving-but-what-about-privacy

She may not give a shit about being sued now, but she will later, when it is far too late as she has been making damning statements admitting fault.

Anonymous said...

So is this lady mad at the highway patrol too? Turner only reported what was already reported. If the charges are correct, then it appears mom has had no control over her son for a while. It's a shame that his wreckless behavior killed others.

Lastly, if any teens are reading this. Get off your phone while in the car. I see it everywhere in Joplin. You will cause an accident, and I only hope that if you're stupid enough to use your phone while driving, that you're the only person who dies in an accident. https://youtu.be/SDWmwxQ_NnY that's what you look like, and all of these could have been way worse. Stop being idiots and just drive.

scarlettsky said...

Veronica, I've been following the story of your son and didn't realize he was yours until Becky P. posted on your FB page. I haven't seen you since high school, but my heart immediately went out to you. It went out to all the families of those involved before I even knew he was your son. That's the point I'm trying to make - PLEASE know there are MANY of us out here who don't care what it was that impaired his driving that night. We have ALL made mistakes on the road - whether it was driving after a few drinks, driving when we were too tired to be behind the wheel, messing with a cell phone or just distracted in any other way. NO ONE is a perfect driver, but it is so damn easy to sit at a keyboard and judge others. Please, please, please just know in your heart that SO many people are sorry to hear your son is gone, just like the others involved. What he did or didn't do is immaterial. It doesn't make the pain any less for any of you. My heart aches for everyone that lost a loved one in this accident and the horrible things people have said are cruel words from evil hearts. They don't help anyone involved. I wish people would take 2 seconds to think about how they'd feel if it was their son, no matter what the situation. But too many self righteous assholes would still have no damn heart. Again, please remember there are many of us out here that don't feel the way those people do!

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry for your loss ! I'm so disturbed by all the people that said those awful things about your son but I see that people hide behind their computers and phones and say some really mean and nasty things I pray God forgives them and that you and all the families that lost loved ones will find peace and comfort in the Lord

Lori Ann Jackson said...

I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your son as well as the others killed in this ACCIDENT! ! As a mother I feel your pain. No matter who or what caused the accident 4 people lost their lives who were loved by family and friends. Instead of placing blame people should be respectful and supportive of the families who lost loved one. Fly high McKay.

Steve Holmes said...

I speak on behalf of we self-righteous assholes, we did not kill four people.

We were not cited for driving while intoxicated, careless and imprudent driving, no insurance, displaying the plates of another, minor in possession, and for not wearing a seat belt.

We were not stopped on May 1 and June 22 by the Joplin Police Department and charged with driving without a license.

We were not awaiting trial in Neosho Municipal Court on a charge of possession of drug paraphernalia.

We were not on probation until July 28 after pleading guilty to a separate charge of driving without a license in Neosho.

We all make mistakes, yes, but this was not an isolated incident. It was part of a pattern. This kid was an accident waiting to happen. It happened on July 4.

I wish healing for all the families. It is not my place to comment on the parenting or the influences that made him what he was. I have no knowledge of that.

But to imply that the rest of us are as cavalier about laws as McKay was, and to downplay what he did as a lapse in judgment... That dog don't hunt.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm

Anonymous said...

Yeah, I guess because she is a grieving mother, we all can't be upset and angry about the danger to society he represented and the fact that no one thought it prudent to take away his keys, but somehow we are the assholes here.

To be sure, wishing the death of a child is disgusting, and her anger is justified. Children have time to grow, even teens whose brains are not fully developed. This pattern of behavior may not have been how he would be at 25. It was wrong of anyone to say that his death was better because he was some sort of lost cause. That said, expecting accountability from those who were tasked with the responsibility of watching him is all together different. Cars kill. Every. Fucken. Day. This was not an F on a report card, sneaking out, or skipping school. This "accident" killed innocent people. And they knew. They knew he was not willing to follow the laws and still he was given the keys to a vehicle. This is why they are likely to face wrongful death suits. At that point, all of his criminal history would have been made the news anyway. So, being upset at RT for publishing public records is a moot point.

She is angry and blames everyone but herself. Rather than taking a moment for self-reflection on how she contributed to this, she is lashing out of people who were ruthless in their comments.

She needs a lawyer, a therapist, and if there are other kids in the home, a social worker.

Anonymous said...

Steve Holmes is right on. Also, nice touch with "The Monster" in the young man's obituary.

Anonymous said...

"My son was not impaired by anything except this impairment device."

This logic is astounding.

Kathy Wilson said...

The authorities would not charged him with a DWI without proof. It's a sad situation for all involved.

Anonymous said...

"That's evil and that should be punishable by death." are you wishing death on others as you so clearly stated that it was wrong other did so to your son? I understand the hurt of lossing someone so close and a piece of you. I understand that hurt can be multiplied by others speaking poorly of the lossed soul. Your words are not repectful regardless the intentions. Suck it up and understand others are hurting to. And the reason for their hurt is because of poor decisions on your sons behalf. Its painful as a mother to lose your child and bless your heart for the actions that put you in this hurt. As a mother who has lost a child i understand the pain. But i also understand that your words are poorly written and could have been handled in a more respectful and meaningful way. What a waste this post is.

Saddened said...

I take care of a little old lady whom had a visit that evening with the duccoman victims...and was there when she got the visit from the highway patrol telling her of their deaths...she suffers daily, they were all she had left for family...and yes i know mckay as well , and his mother...this is tragedy for all involved but i cant believe the hwy patrol would lie about his being intoxicated, posession of substance, plates, insurance etc...why would they lie? If anyone knows this young man then you know his past time habits....

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry about McKay and all of the others involved. I honestly have never seen such a bunch of hypocritical BITCHES ,and yes, I meant to call almost all of you that,in my life and it makes me sick!!!!!! Apparently none of you have children or if you do i pray that none of you have to go through everything that Veronica is going through right now!!! ~Lisa ALSOP COBERLEY~

Anonymous said...

We do have children, and that is why we are angry that this woman allowed her child who demonstrated time and again his disregard for the rules of the road to have keys.

Everyone of the people he killed was someone's child. We are angry for them and how their lives were deemed less important than the whims of a teenager and the discomfort his spineless mother. It infuriates me to no end that the people in the other car could have been my own family.

Tragedies do not occur in a vacuum. Very often there is someone responsible, and in this case it is the teen and his caretakers.

She needs to own her culpability.

Anonymous said...

How intoxication is determined in car accidents is lab testing. All ER accidents will have blood drawn & testing for alcohol & drugs among other tests. The police find out results of tests from hospital.
I'm so sorry for everyone involved. It's a terrible thing to loose a child.








Anonymous said...

This was indeed a tragic, yet preventable accident. Four souls were sent into eternity. Whomever provided alcohol to this young man should be found and charged with vehicular homicide.
The writer of this blog obtained his information from law enforcement and public records. Thank you for providing us with accurate information.
Prayers for all the families involved.

Amy said...

Exactly. Especially if the kid wasn't carrying insurance. That other family will sue and I'd ve surprised if the family of his passenger who died don't sue also

Anonymous said...

After reading all the other replies I was glad to come across yours. My heart goes out to all involved but you are right people need to think about it if it were their child. No mother wants that call or knock at the door. As a mom of a 16 year old boy it literally makes me sick when I think about it. So for whoever said itss the fault of the adult who let him drive before he was responsible, no it's not, kids do dumb shit even after being warned 100 times. Veronica, please know that you nor anybody else is at fault, your baby shouldn't have been on his phone but he was, nothing will ever change that, I'm so super sorry for your loss and like others have said, people are assholes so don't pay attention to the negatives. Keep your head up, people do care and will continue to pray for you. If I could I would give you a big hug right now. Let him be your strength and God be your guidance

Steve Holmes said...

6:32, *nobody* is at fault? Then why are three innocent people dead? Yeah, these things just happen. No biggie.

I don't feel any of us knows enough about the kid's background to say where he went wrong. Not enough to even speculate. For that reason, I have avoided criticism of his mother. For that same reason, I can't give her a free pass. We just don't know.

And 6:32, people *are* thinking about it as if it were their child. They think about getting that call telling them their beloved child is dead because of a drunk driver.

Anonymous said...

Cause your so perfect you douche bag! Its sad no matter what car they were in! Nobody leaves this earth unless the good lord allows it! Some things are out of our hands and beyond our comprehension! The word sais no sin is greater than another! All the same in the eyes of the lord! You dont seem so perfect now huh?

Steve Holmes said...

"Douche bag?" I liked "self-righteous asshole" better. It's got more flair to it.

Never bought that "no sin is greater than another" line. So I covet my neighbor's wife (or daughter, or her visiting roommate from college), or lie by telling a friend that dress looks good on her when it does not? That's the same as being a mass murderer? Tell that to the law. It imposes different penalties for different infractions. Do you think the penalty for robbery and assault should be the same as the one for jaywalking?

This is not beyond our comprehension. The kid killed four people. Tore apart four families. This didn't have to happen.

Steve Holmes said...

Upon further review, I've figured out what irks me about some of the posts. The posters seem to care more about Mr. Harris and his family than about the three others and their families.

You can argue he is a victim, too, since he will have no chance to turn his life around. Taking the charitable view, his family members are victims, too. Is he as much a victim as the ones who died by his actions? Reasonable people can differ on that. I say, "no, he is not."

They went through this after the Columbine school shootings in Colorado. Should the
memorial to the victims include the killers, too?

I wonder how this discussion would be different if Mr. Harris had lived.

Cotton said...

Sadly, he chose poorly. We've all done that at one time or other, some with a severity they cannot come back from for a do-over. Mrs. Harris, im very sorry for your loss, im sorry for the bashing, harsh words,and cruelty that is out here. Unfortunately,these are the people of the world pointing fingers all while forgetting 3 are pointing right back at them. There is nothing wrong with you being momma bear,thats what we do, protect our baby's! Sadly, there was no insurance there will be finacial burdens for some lawsuits will come so be smart on public statements. He was 17 at that age he is still the parents liability, just like the title holder of the vehicle holds the liability.

Anonymous said...

Steve Holmes is, once again, spot on.

Laura h said...

Preach it sister!