Punishment. Fits. Crime. You slap. We slap. You spit. We spit. You scream. We scream. Immediate feedback. Clear directions. No misunderstandings.
Really, I know we can't slap, pinch, hit, kick, etc. even though we feel like it at times, but maybe if the consequence were swift it might make an impression.
Really, I know we can't slap, pinch, hit, kick, etc. even though we feel like it at times, but maybe if the consequence were swift it might make an impression.
If your little darling shreds his math paper. Fine. Clean the floor. Not just under the desk, but the entire room. And redo the assignment. Same goes for spitting. I'm thinking a mini broom and dust pan or toothbrush and floor cleaner.
Those who yell and scream could have a headset strapped to their head and listen to a recording of themselves.
Maybe they'll get so sick of the sound of their shrill little voices that they'll stop. Only one answer for kickers and slappers. Put them in a sound proof rubber room. Let them bounce off the walls awhile.
The pincher could have pinch training, picking up all the minute pieces of dust. This requires excellent pinching skills. Why let them go to waste? Use them to clean the school.
Seriously, these punishments are over the top, but something has to be done. Now. Kids are growing up without consequences for their behavior. Sitting them at a desk to think about what they have done only gives them more time to dream up more misbehaviors. More time to justify their misbehavior.
Sooner or later, they need direction. Guidance. Consequences. They need to learn that their behaviors are not acceptable. If they don't learn this, how will they ever grow up and hold down a job. I've never had a boss that had a safe room where employees could think about their behavior. I've never worked at a job where everyone was employee of the month. I've never had a boss tell me to use safe hands. Although, I maybe should have had one that told me to use kind words!
The pincher could have pinch training, picking up all the minute pieces of dust. This requires excellent pinching skills. Why let them go to waste? Use them to clean the school.
Seriously, these punishments are over the top, but something has to be done. Now. Kids are growing up without consequences for their behavior. Sitting them at a desk to think about what they have done only gives them more time to dream up more misbehaviors. More time to justify their misbehavior.
Sooner or later, they need direction. Guidance. Consequences. They need to learn that their behaviors are not acceptable. If they don't learn this, how will they ever grow up and hold down a job. I've never had a boss that had a safe room where employees could think about their behavior. I've never worked at a job where everyone was employee of the month. I've never had a boss tell me to use safe hands. Although, I maybe should have had one that told me to use kind words!
Reality. May not be fun, but it's this thing called life. We all have to grow up and accept the good and the bad. We don't always get our way. Sometimes we have to compromise. Sometimes we lose. And when we lose, we can't kick and scream. If we do, we're fired.
It is never to early to start learning these life lessons. By failing to teach kids about the reality of life, we're lying to them. They need to know that we love them, we'll protect them, we'll care for them, but we will teach them the hard lessons of life. We'll teach them right from wrong. We'll let them learn from their mistakes. We'll let them lose and learn to be gracious to the winners. We'll discipline them when they need it. At least we'll do as much as we're allowed to do. Because we care.
Who knows? Maybe after we've failed a generation or two with our mixed-up, watered-down discipline programs we'll go back to the basics.
Two children. Two murders. Two southwest Missouri communities changed forever.
Available now in paperback and e-book- Lost Angels: The Murders of Rowan Ford and Doug Ringler
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